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Next Stop - "Happiness"


What stories do you tell yourself about when you will be happy, when things will be okay?

As a teenager I remember thinking that when I'd lost weight, when my hair had grown, when my spots cleared, when I left school, when I had a boyfriend, when I could drive, when I got my own place...................................then I'd be happy!

Of course most of those things eventually do happen but things and events from the outside world don't bring happiness like they appear to. They can add to our lives if we are grateful and don't begin looking for the next thing but in themselves they don't create happiness.

We create happiness from the inside and we can do this despite the current circumstances of our lives.

I'm certainly older and I'd like to think wiser but even now I fall into the trap of deferring my happiness to a future point. To a future point that may never happen and can be out of my control.

Most of the things we aim for in life whether it's the job, the car, the lottery win, the ideal body or the perfect partner - it's not the actual thing we want it's the feeling we believe will come from that thing - happiness!

If the thing arrives and our minds are still on the wrong path we won't be happy or if we are initially it won't last, we'll soon be searching for THE thing that will bring us lasting happiness.

"Happiness is not a goal....it is a by-product of a life well lived" Eleanor Roosevelt.

As soon as we realise that we generate our own happiness it is not dependent on external factors we have the power, the awareness and the control to start being happy right now, despite the cellulite, beer belly or without the ideal job.

In quantum physics terms we can stop waiting. Feeling the lack of something lowers our energetic vibration keeping us stuck thinking the outside conditions of our life have to be as we want them to be for us to be happy.

Everything in the universe is energy and if we choose to be happy right now focusing on what we do have and what we are grateful for this will raise our energetic vibration bringing us into alignment with the life we desire and deserve.

So why wait? If you can't move on from the past or stop worrying about the future I can help you do that so that you can begin enjoying the present. I'm not saying we shouldn't have goals or dream big - our brains are problem solving machines they need goals.

What I am saying is enjoy the process, be happy as you work towards achieving your goals don't let happiness rest at the summit of a mountain that you painfully climb to reach the distant heights - enjoy the climb, the company, the views - each stage can bring its own rewards.

What stories do you tell yourself about when you will be happy, when things will be okay?

As a teenager I remember thinking that when I'd lost weight, when my hair had grown, when my spots cleared, when I left school, when I had a boyfriend, when I could drive, when I got my own place...................................then I'd be happy!

Of course most of those things eventually do happen but things and events from the outside world don't bring happiness like they appear to. They can add to our lives if we are grateful and don't begin looking for the next thing but in themselves they don't create happiness. We create happiness from the inside and we can do this despite the current circumstances of our lives.

I'm certainly older and I'd like to think wiser but even now I fall into the trap of deferring my happiness to a future point. To a future point that may never happen and can be out of my control. Most of the things we aim for in life whether it's the job, the car, the lottery win, the ideal body or the perfect partner - it's not the actual thing we want it's the feeling we believe will come from that thing - happiness! If the thing arrives and our minds are still on the wrong path we won't be happy or if we are initially it won't last, we'll soon be searching for THE thing that will bring us lasting happiness.

"Happiness is not a goal....it is a by-product of a life well lived" Eleanor Roosevelt.

As soon as we realise that we generate our own happiness it is not dependent on external factors we have the power, the awareness and the control to start being happy right now, despite the cellulite beer belly or without the ideal job.

In quantum physics terms we can stop waiting. Feeling the lack of something lowers our energetic vibration keeping us stuck thinking the outside conditions of our life have to be as we want them to be for us to be happy. Everything in the universe is energy and if we choose to be happy right now focusing on what we do have and what we are grateful for this will raise our energetic vibration bringing us into alignment with the life we desire and deserve.

So why wait? If you can't move on from the past or stop worrying about the future I can help you do that so that you can begin enjoying the present. I'm not saying we shouldn't have goals or dream big - our brains are problem solving machines they need goals. What I am saying is enjoy the process be happy as you work towards achieving your goals don't let happiness rest at the summit of a mountain that you painfully climb to reach the distant heights - enjoy the climb, the company, the views - each stage can bring its own rewards.

This poem by Robert J. Hastings sums things up brilliantly

THE STATION

TUCKED AWAY in our subconscious minds is an idyllic vision in which we see ourselves on a long journey that spans an entire continent. We’re traveling by train and, from the windows, we drink in the passing scenes of cars on nearby highways, of children waving at crossings, of cattle grazing in distant pastures, of smoke pouring from power plants, of row upon row upon row of cotton and corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, of city skylines and village halls.

But uppermost in our conscious minds is our final destination–for at a certain hour and on a given day, our train will finally pull into the Station with bells ringing, flags waving, and bands playing. And once that day comes, so many wonderful dreams will come true. So restlessly, we pace the aisles and count the miles, peering ahead, waiting, waiting, waiting for the Station.

“Yes, when we reach the Station, that will be it!” we promise ourselves. “When we’re eighteen. . . win that promotion. . . put the last kid through college. . . buy that 450SL Mercedes-Benz. . . have a nest egg for retirement!” From that day on we will all live happily ever after.

Sooner or later, however, we must realize there is no Station in this life, no one earthly place to arrive at once and for all. The journey is the joy. The Station is an illusion–it constantly outdistances us. Yesterday’s a memory, tomorrow’s a dream. Yesterday belongs to a history, tomorrow belongs to God. Yesterday’s a fading sunset, tomorrow’s a faint sunrise. Only today is there light enough to love and live.

So, gently close the door on yesterday and throw the key away. It isn’t the burdens of today that drive men mad, but rather the regret over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow. Regret and fear are twin thieves who would rob us of today.

“Relish the moment” is a good motto, especially when coupled with Psalm 118:24, “This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.”

So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim more rivers, climb more mountains, kiss more babies, count more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along.

The Station will come soon enough.


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07891 687678

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